Every book has a known and an unknown. For a memoir, the unknown is the connections.
Working from a database of what you remember, what you may have previously written down in a journal, or what others may remind you is the raw material of memoir. As such, it may seem like just execution to get it all down.
But what if you took time to think on the page? To dig, not only into why something happened, but what it meant for other times in your life?
The ability to make those connections is what will matter to the reader, not the details of your life. The connections are what connects.